Parenting after a divorce presents its own unique challenges. It can feel overwhelming to tackle a new parenting dynamic amongst a separation. Furthermore, it is your duty to ensure that your children have as easy a transition as possible. A divorce brings about a lot of changes in their life, such as visitation schedules.
However, when you succeed at co-parenting, there are a plethora of benefits for your children. Creative Family Solutions, Cecil Cianci Law, PC can help explain these benefits, as well as what traits your children can gain.
Provides a Sense Of Normalcy
One of the best things you can do for your children after a divorce is to return to a sense of normal as soon as possible. While other things are changing around them, it is important to commit to healthy, respectful co-parenting in order to preserve the sense of joint parenting in their lives. Your children will greatly benefit from this sense of security, not left to wonder how their parent’s raising them will change.
Encourages Problem Solving
When you co-parent, problem-solving becomes a routine part of life. Sometimes speed bumps come up in the road, meaning that you and your fellow co-parent will have to negotiate what steps to take next. These skills will not go unnoticed by your children. They observe how you approach conflict, as well as how problems are solved. Co-parenting teaches them that problem solving is not an impossible feat.
Staying Present in Their Life
When parents decide not to approach co-parenting in a positive manner, it can cause rifts in relationships between children and their parents. For example, if one parent speaks negatively of the other, it can encourage the child to adopt similar beliefs. However, if you approach co-parenting with positivity, it allows each parent to stay equally present and relevant in the child’s life. Furthermore, it creates a situation where it is less difficult for parents to support their children jointly.
Improved Communication Skills
One of the main components of co-parenting is engaging in transparent communication. You have to let your fellow co-parent know when things are going wrong, as well as provide important updates and information about your children. At first, this might prove to be a challenge. However, over time you will gain the ability to communicate with your co-parent in a way that benefits your children.
When your kids see this taking place, they will be able to learn from the models that are set before them. They will understand the importance of communication in relationships and that it can continue after a divorce.
Less Stress, Anxiety, and Worry
Divorce is anxiety-inducing for all involved. However, children may experience this at a higher rate, especially if they do not fully understand the situation. For example, after a divorce, children will often blame themselves for what has happened, thinking that they are at fault for their parent’s separation.
While this is not the case, these thoughts can damage their self-esteem. However, when co-parenting with a positive approach, your child will be reassured that they did not cause the end of your parent’s relationship. Instead, they will see the continued support and communication between them, reducing the potential for anxiety and worry.
Need Help With Parenting Plans?
Creative Family Solutions, Cecil Cianci Law, PC understands how important it is to maintain your relationship with your kids. That’s why we are here to help you create sound parenting plans that ensure you and your ex-spouse remain on the same page. If problems ever arise, know that we can help navigate the adjustment of plans or court orders.
Contact our team today at (916) 675-3866 to schedule an appointment for a consultation! We are here for you.