Going through a divorce can leave you emotionally scarred. You may be angry, vindictive, resentful or just plain hurt. While you want to make your partner pay by lashing out at him or her, this will do nothing to boost your self-esteem. Getting a law firm on your side who will fight to get you what you want is one avenue to go down. If there are children involved, you may want to re-think that. Being sure that the children are taken care of needs to be your first thought in a divorce.
There are attorneys out there who will drag your spouse through the mud and will fight every little detail in court, which is public record. This leads to much turmoil. This type of divorce happens all the time. It doesn't have to happen to you.
When you cannot work out the details of your child custody arrangement with your spouse, the court will take over and make these decisions for you. Nothing is more stressful than sitting in court listening to a judge tell you what you can and can't do with your kids. These consequences can impact you and your children for years.
It must be said that your children will not be immune to the emotional and psychological repercussions of a contested divorce. If you focus solely on financial issues rather than family issues, the needs of the children are pushed aside.
A collaborative divorce attorney can help you and your family come to an understanding on such issues as child custody and child support. They specialize in creating peaceful outcomes without involving the court at all. Calling in a lawyer who knows how to bring both parties to the table and negotiate is much more productive than fighting it out in court.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Divorce Litigation: Can Parents Afford the Real Price?," Rosalind Sedacca, Oct. 23, 2015